Do you believe in Fate?
The answer greatly influences your life and will also influence the way you phrase questions for your reading.
How much of your life is destined? How much is based on free choice? This is a long-debated topic with many opinions and theories. Quantum physicists and mystics say that we create our lives with our thoughts, beliefs and words. This matches the current "new age" belief, as described in the movie "The Secret". Some people would say that its your actions that change your life. Others would say all goes according to God's plan.
Back in the 80's, in my 20's I had a teacher who was very wise. She told us that we each are born with a few possible paths we can choose from. She believed we had choices, but were somewhat limited to those few options.
Others believe that we set up the over-all or at least the most important parts of our lives before we're born. We choose our parents, environment & experiences to suit the particular needs for our soul's evolution. We make soul contracts with others whom we will meet in our lifetime, having particular relationships and challenges with each, all for the purpose of learning.
Then there's the concept of karma. Some define it as reward/punishment -based, others believe its a simply fact that action results in reaction. To complicate matters, some say every action results in both a positive and a negative reaction.
Who is right? I certainly dont claim to have all the mysteries of the universe figured out. But I can say that, in my experience and that of my clients, the way that your life will unfold is based on a combination of these factors:
1) the type of parenting you received
2) how much emotional work you've done / how self-aware you are
3) prayer, creative visualization (see future articles on this or google it )
4) your choices
and in my opinion, one of the most important factors, summed up in the following phrase that I coined myself-
"You're either problem-oriented or solution-oriented"
A problem-oriented person gets bogged down by self-doubt, hopelessness and confusion. They become paralyzed by their negative emotions until they can see no way out of their situation. They remain passive and stay in the situation. They tend to be fatalistic (believe in fate) therefore, they feel theres nothing they can do. They may believe they are "cursed", unlucky or that they have bad karma from a past life. As a solution-oriented person, I must say,the above may or may not be true, but there is a solution to everything, even bad karma. Retribution can be made through prayer, through self-less service , volunteer work, etc.
A solution-oriented person may cry or feel hopeless, but they will move past these feelings. They decide to pull themselves up and turn on their problem-solving skills. They find solutions, make choices and take action. This type of person also tends to help others find solutions (Im one of them , which is why my clients and friends call me for help!)
The good news is- you can LEARN to be solution-oriented. When I was younger, in my 20s and 30's, I was 2 things that I am not any longer. One was, I was fatalistic. This belief, whether based in truth or not, can be a dangerous and debilitating one. This belief is often the foundational belief of the problem-oriented person as mentioned above. Even if your life was ruled by fate, there is still some "wiggle room" Think of all the things youve done, choices youve made, the times youve followed your intuition, and the times you havent. You DID have a choice.
I also used to be problem-oriented. I had a victim mentality and much self-pity. Some of this was justified as I did have a very abusive childhood. But over the years and through much emotional work I have let go of that and decided to have a good life. I have CHOSEN not to allow the negativity to control me. You can choose too.
What kind of life do you want? Are you not deserving? Are you not a child of God? Take control of your life, pray, visualize, make choices, and take ACTION.